My Favourite Manifestation

My favourite manifestation

Know your magic, trust your magic, use your magic,

and know that you are a manifestation of life’s magic.

I have used manifesting as a powerful tool to help transform my life for most of my adult life. In this blog I wanted to share my story about how manifesting found me and my favourite manifestation.

My manifesting story starts in 2007. I had lost my mum to cancer the previous year and it was fair to say that life had been challenging. I had decided to temporarily move back down to London from Cheshire so that I could be closer to my family. I had trained as a coach and was starting to develop my own business. I was single and had been for a long time. It had been a challenging time.

I went on a skiing holiday with one of my friends and I decided that I wanted to take a private skiing lesson whilst she was in ski school. I had stayed as the same proficiency with skiing for a number of years and felt like I needed to give myself a push. So, I booked a lesson. 

On the morning of the lesson, I made my way to the meeting point and waited patiently with all the other people about to embark on their lessons. One by one the instructors came across and called names and slowly the crowd diminished until it was just me left standing on my own. I was beginning to get a bit anxious when suddenly a tall, dark haired Canadian in ski googles came across and introduced himself as Daniel. I immediately felt relaxed in his company, and I knew it was going to be a good morning.

We spent a good hour just making our way around the slopes and for the first time in a long time I felt like I was having fun. We got on a ski lift, and we were chatting away when Daniel suddenly says to me “Joanna, do you believe in the Law of Attraction?”. I did not know how to respond. In that moment, I freaked out a little bit. My mind was racing. I wasn’t sure if this was a chat up line and didn’t want to offend him. So, I played it safe and responded with “do you mean that like attracts like?”. To which he said “yes, exactly” and I breathed a sigh of relief.

He went on to talk to be about how he intentionally calls in what he desires each day. He told me that as he caught the bus to the slopes today, he had set an intention to ski with someone who was chatty and fun to ski with. He said, “and the universe responded by sending me you today as my client”.

He then went on to share other stories about how he actively manifests things in his life using the Universal Law of Attraction. It was an interesting conversation. Then he recommended a book to me called The Secret. I had never heard of it and didn’t think much more about it. We finished our lesson, said our goodbyes grateful for a fabulous couple of hours on the slopes.

I came back home from my trip and settled back into my daily life and routine. I had arranged to spend the weekend with one of my friends back in Cheshire. We had some lunch together at her house and popped open a bottle of Prosecco. The weather wasn’t great, so we decided to stay in, get cosy in front of the fire and watch a movie. As we were about to settle down she turns to be and says “oh, I’ve actually got a DVD we could watch although I am not sure it will be your thing or not. It’s called The Secret”. I nearly fell off the sofa. I could not believe that a stranger half-way around the world had talked to me about this book and now my friend was talking about it too in a matter of a couple of weeks. It was such a coincidence! I knew this was important and so we settled down and watched it.

This started my journey of discovery about the power of the Universal Laws and manifesting. It has not always been an easy path. There have been moments where I have really tuned in to it and manifested miracles and there have been times where I have got in my own way and manifested exactly what I didn’t want. 

At its most simplistic, manifesting is about your energy. It is about becoming a vibrational match for the things you desire. It involves us being clear about what we want and focusing on nothing but that. The Secret breaks it down into 3 basic steps:

·      Ask for what you want

·      Believe you are worthy of it

·      Receiving it by creating space for it in your life.

The Secret was a simple introduction that enabled the principles of manifesting to be communicated to a wide audience globally. In my experience, manifesting is more complex than the simple 3 step formula above implies but it works.

And now I want to talk you through my favourite manifestation…

In 2011, I turned forty. Over the past few years leading up to this date, I had focused entirely on my career. I had become very successful in the field of leadership development, I had a lovely house, great friends, I had a designer shoe and bag collection to die for. On paper I had it all. The problem was that I had been single forever.

I was constantly being asked “why are you still single?” which makes you feel completely rubbish. I am not even sure what people expect you to say to that! I felt like time was running away. My brother and sister were both married to amazing people, so I stood out in the family as being the ‘different one’. I got described as the one with the good career. Over the previous few years, I felt myself becoming more and more stressed about finding ‘the one’. My friends were all married, so it started to feel like a lonely place.

Then I remembered The Secret and I realised something. I was sending out mixed singles to The Universe. I was saying that I wanted to be in a loving, committed relationship with my soulmate but was not living a life that enabled that to be true.  I was clear about what I wanted but was not behaving in a way that would enable it to manifest.

As my fortieth birthday approached, I made some changes.

I looked around my home and realised that every bit of wardrobe space was filled. I started to notice how I parked on my drive. I had the space for two cars and yet parked right in the middle. I was saying yes I want to share my life on one hand and blocking it with the other.

Then I looked at my life more broadly. I was working away all week. I would leave on a Monday morning and get back late on a Thursday. During the week, I would have dinner with my dad and then sit in front of the TV with my laptop on my knee and work until 10pm each night. At the weekend, I would spend time seeing my friends. Where was the space to go on an actual date if I got invited?

I knew that I was beginning to lose the passion for my job, and I was finding the constant travelling and living out of suitcases exhausting and yet I stayed. I didn’t know what else I wanted to do.

Then suddenly, it hit me.

My current lifestyle was clearly telling the Universe that I had no space for a serious relationship in my life. Things needed to change.

And they did.

I decided that I was going to let the ‘need to find someone’ go. I had been in the energy of lack and constantly focusing on what I didn’t have instead of focusing on what I desired. I arranged to have 12 months of fun doing things that I loved with the people that I loved and created a calendar of events that would take place through 2011. It was an incredible few months where I created lifetime memories with my favourite people. I laughed more in those few months that I had in the previous decade. I felt lighter.

Then something strange happened in the December of that year. I lost my job. I suddenly found myself with time on my hands. I started to relax and breathe again. I had space to really start thinking about what I wanted. I had a beautiful, peaceful Christmas with my family and just took a moment to pause.

In that space, an opportunity presented itself. I was asked to do an interim role working back with a team that I had worked with previously and I jumped at the chance. It was with a great organisation, with people I loved working with, and I knew it was what my soul needed. I started the job on Valentine’s Day 2022, and it felt perfectly aligned. It still involved a commute that meant I was working away, but it was half the distance!

The weekend before I started the new job, I got a notification to say that a recurring payment had been taken from my account. It was for Match.com, the online dating site. I had dipped my toe very unenthusiastically into the online dating pond and given up quite quickly. I found it too clinical. I was so frustrated with myself for not cancelling it however I decided that given I was now a member for a further six months, I would re-write my profile. So, I did.

I wrote the most authentic profile I could have written. I was Shoequeen71. I allowed all of my creativity to flow into this profile. It was written as a rhyming poem. I had no expectation at all when I posted it. All I knew was that I had been in creative flow when I posted it and that it had my personality all over it. I posted my profile on the 17th February.

On the 18th of February, I woke up to a message from Farady71. I looked at the profile photo and felt a connection to this person on the other side of a keyboard. We spent the weekend emailing back and forth and eventually we decided to speak on the phone and on the 25th February we met for the first time in a pub car park halfway between our two homes that were about 200 miles apart.

We looked at each other, walked up to each other, and had our first kiss. It felt like we already knew each other. It was magical. Faraday 71 was Rob, my soulmate and my greatest manifestation.

By the end of July, we were engaged.

By the end of October, I had moved to Cumbria.

Within 14 months we had a beautiful wedding by a lake, surrounded by mountains and people we love.

I often think back to this story and consider the magic that happened…

When I was pushing and living from an energy of lack, what I wanted did not materialise. The more I needed to find ‘the one’, the further I pushed it away. When I desired it and was grateful for the life I had, Rob appeared.

The Universe will give you nudges if you are not taking the hint. I knew I needed to change my lifestyle and that my job was not making me happy anymore and yet I stayed. Until the job was taken away from me. If Rob and I had met when I was doing that job, I am not sure we would have survived. I was living and working too far way, and we would not have seen each other.

Nothing is by chance. The Universe leaves you breadcrumbs to what you desire. I needed to forget to cancel Match so that I could rewrite my profile so that it would appeal to the man who was meant for me. Beautiful synchronicity.

There is so much more to say about the power of manifesting and in future blogs I will. For now, I just want to remind you of this…

Even when you can’t see it, the Universe is always working on your behalf.

Your Call to Action

Where are you contradicting yourself in your life? How are your actions contributing to the life you desire?