You are so lucky!

Purpose| Self Leadership| Transformation

May 29, 2025•5 min read

"Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity"

Seneca

In just three weeks, I’ll walk away from a 36-year corporate career and into the business I’ve been dreaming about for eight.

This isn’t luck. It’s leadership.

I’ve built a crystal-clear vision for my life. I’ve developed a mission that moves me. I’ve taken courageous, aligned steps to make it real.

I’ve followed the exact model of transformation I now teach. I’ve listened to the whispers of intuition. I’ve taken action before I felt ready. And, I continue to show up in full pursuit of my mission.

That mission?

To activate 100,000 women to break free from the identities that hold them back and lead themselves in the direction of their wildest dreams.

I go first, not because it’s easy, but because it matters. I choose to lead, to leap, and to be deeply vulnerable in sharing the truth of the path and not just the 'highlight reel'.

The Three Words That Stuck

Recently, someone at work responded to the news of my departure with three words:

“You’re so lucky.”

I laughed it off at the time. But their words stayed with me, like a thorn I couldn’t quite shake loose. Reducing the moment I’m in to “luck”… completely misses what it’s taken to get here.

It’s not just this one conversation either. I hear these words thrown around all the time:

“You’re lucky you can afford to do that.”
“You’re lucky you had that opportunity.”
“You’re lucky you’re brave enough.”
“You’re lucky you got that promotion.”
“You’re lucky to have a happy marriage.”

But luck is often just a comfortable story we tell ourselves. It lets us off the hook. It helps us avoid looking at the gap between where we are and where we want to be. It suggests that the life we quietly long for is only available to the chosen few and we weren’t picked.

But I want to gently challenge that.

The Comfort of Calling It Luck

Describing my decision to leave a safe, well-paid corporate role as “luck” makes it sound like it just happened by chance. It's like I found a golden ticket, skipped out of the office with zero fear and a perfect plan in place. But nothing about this has been handed to me. This dream was born from a different one being taken away.

For years, I longed to become a mother. But infertility meant that my dream never materialised.

Grieving that loss was gut-wrenching. I felt unanchored. Questioning everything. My identity, my purpose, my worth.

Walking the Coast to Coast became a turning point. I walked with a broken heart and blistered feet, and somewhere along the way, I let go of the dream of motherhood and allowed a new one to take root.

That’s when No Ordinary Woman was born.

Over the last eight years, I’ve lost and found myself more than once. I’ve sat with questions like:

“If I’m not going to be a mother, who am I?”
“What am I here for?”
“Is this really it?”

I tried to find legacy in my work. I tried to feel fulfilled in ways that no longer fit.

On the cusp of making a leap I recognised that my husband’s physical and mental health was more important than my mission and so I paused.

But the whisper within me got louder.

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I began to see that I was meant for more than a life that felt 'fine.'

So I crafted a vision so bold, I knew I’d have to evolve to become the woman who could live it and lead it.

There were years of skill-building behind the scenes. Certifications, trainings, deep inner work, putting myself outside my comfort zone so I’d be ready when the moment came.

And when it finally did? I chose to let my dream be louder than my fear. And I said yes.

None of this was luck. It was self-leadership.

The Truth About Opportunity

Here’s what we don’t often say out loud:

Opportunities are neutral.

They only become powerful when you do something with them. We all get doors opened to us, but not everyone walks through.

Why?

Because it’s one thing to be offered a path. It’s another thing entirely to take the first step, especially when you can’t see the whole map.

I said YES to this open door. Not because it was certain, but because I trust myself. I know what I’m building. I’ve done the inner work to back myself when things get real.

What We Call Luck Is Often Someone Else’s Self-Belief

It’s easy to romanticise someone else’s leap when you’re not the one standing at the edge. But when we reduce courage to chance, we miss the truth of what it really takes to lead yourself into a new chapter.

We dull another woman’s devotion and dismiss her choices with the words:

“You’re so lucky.”

I am leading this mission because I speak with so many women who are waiting.

Waiting for a sign.

Waiting for certainty.

Waiting for permission.

Waiting to feel ready.

But No Ordinary Women don’t wait. They move even when they’re scared. Even when the path is blurry.
Even when no one else quite understands the vision they hold.

So if someone’s leap inspires you, don’t call her lucky.

Instead, ask yourself: What might be possible for me if I trusted myself too?

No Ordinary Women Create Their Own Luck

This is why I created my business No Ordinary Woman.

Because I believe we are done waiting.

Done shrinking

Done outsourcing our power to circumstance or other people's opinions.

We are women who create our own luck.
We lead ourselves.
We trust that the most powerful decision we’ll ever make is to back ourselves even when it’s hard.

So please don’t call me lucky.
Call me a leader.

Call me courageous.
Call me the woman who finally said yes.

And maybe, just maybe, let that remind you of the woman inside you who’s ready to lead too.

A final thought

If this stirred something in you, pause for a moment and reflect: